An episode of complete and utter boll**ks and winging it as usual

Ever wondered why the simple question, "How are you?" often feels more like a social script than a genuine inquiry? We unpack the automatic responses we give and receive, and ponder whether society is truly prepared for authentic answers. Could a straightforward "hello" be a more honest approach? Join us as we explore the fine line between politeness and real emotional exchange, and share some surprising reactions that come from breaking the norm.

Life’s embarrassing moments can be a source of endless laughter, and we’re here to prove it. Picture this: mistaking a complete stranger for a loved one and waving at them enthusiastically for miles! Or the time one of us desperately tried to get the attention of a post office van driver. These mishaps might make you cringe, but they also remind us not to take life too seriously. Most people are too wrapped up in their own worlds to notice our blunders, so why not find the humor in them? Listen in as we brainstorm a hilarious t-shirt idea to celebrate these lighthearted moments.

From the sneaky antics of cats to someone walking into the wrong house thinking it’s a café, we dive into the randomness that makes life entertaining. We share candid conversations about the realities of hosting Sunday lunches, and how the expectation of a perfect roast has given way to meal deals and frozen foods. Generational differences in meal prep and the shift from people-pleasing to authenticity are laid bare with a mix of humor and honesty. Embrace the chaos and laugh along with us as we navigate the unexpected joys of everyday life.

Chapters

• 0:00 Questioning Societal Norms and Programming
• 17:38 Embracing the Unexpected With Laughter
• 25:49 Casual Chat About Life and Randomness
• 36:51 Reevaluating Hostess Skills and Expectations

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:43

Hello, Hello, how are you? I'm all right. Yeah, how are you? I'm all right? I think Good. Do you know? It's a bit weird when people ask you that question and you're not sure. Yeah, because it's funny, isn't it? We don't ever want to go, oh. I'm not really sure. I always feel like you should say, yeah, I'm all right, I know, but sometimes the honest answer is I'm all right, I know, but sometimes the honest answer is I don't know.

Speaker 1: 1:10

So why don't you just say I don't know, I don't know? I think that's a lot of programming, isn't it? Because normally, like you say my boxed out, I'm like, yeah, do you know what I mean? Pass it off and ask somebody else. If you said to somebody else how are you? And they said I don't know, you'd be a bit like, oh, what do I say now, wouldn't you? I know this is it, isn't it? Oh, try it. Oh, I'm going to have to try that now, but yeah, not like in a bad way, like I'm feeling bad, bad, I don't know, but genuinely I'm like, yeah, I think I'm all right, I don't.

Speaker 1: 1:52

well, yeah, I get that. I always think it's a funny question, but it's a question that we're just programmed to ask all the time, isn't it? Yeah, I just think it would be funny to go like somebody goes, goes, have you all right? No, it's like they'd shit their pants, wouldn't they Like, oh, oh, I bet somebody would go oh, that's all right. Then A lot of people would not know how to respond to that. But also, you wouldn't expect that. No, but also, well, you wouldn't expect it yourself either.

Speaker 1: 2:32

Would you, if somebody said it to you and somebody went like, how would you react? Like, if you went, you all right and they went, no, you go, oh what? What do I say now? I suppose it depends on who it would, but yeah, if it was somebody, I knew I'd go right. Okay, come on then, tell me all about it. What's going on? Because we're really bad, aren't we for programming? We fiddly with work. I can't hear my headphones, but I don't think that plugged in. That's better.

Speaker 1: 3:01

No, I was thinking the same, but I just thought it was my ears. No, no, I forgot what I was saying. We'll say it back. I don't think either that we really want people to say no and actually when we ask, do we really mean it or is it just a programming that we go? You're right so it's like a habit that everybody has that goes you're right. We don't really mean you're right, do you See? No, actually now you've said that that's really interesting, because I don't think it is, is it? No.

Speaker 1: 3:45

Because there's some people, if you're truthfully, that you'd rather not ask that question too, because you can hurt them, yeah, there's those people. You think it's polite for me to do that, but actually I really don't want to know how you're. No, and actually is there some people you don't even ask, you just go, ah, because you know it's like no, I don't want to go down that road. No, so, yeah, I think it's a programming thing, isn't it? And, like you say, it's a habit. How often do you think I genuinely want to know what that person, how that person's feeling? I know, aren't we bad? Really? Yes, I don't really, do we? No, not in the general scheme of things. Like you say, it's just a, it's a, just like like a you know, two second, like tennis match, isn't it? Hi? How are you? Yeah, I'm fine, thank you. How are you? Yeah, hi, then yeah, yeah, as you're passing, or or whatever isn't it yeah funny enough.

Speaker 1: 4:47

It's hard, isn't it, like I say, but how much do we genuinely want to know that? I'm not saying it sometimes I just don't know.

Speaker 1: 4:55

I'm not in a bad way, I don't feel shit, I'm just. I've not thought about how I felt today. It's funny, right? We always at a sign in my brain here. We always go how are you, as in, how are you feeling, yeah, yet we never really talk about how we're feeling or talk about emotions, and yet we use that phrase flippantly. That's a good point, mmm, that's a good point. How often do we sit down and go feeling? Well, this morning I was a little bit angry about such and such, but now I feel like calm. We don't, do we? I go what? Well, you just asked how are you feeling? You all right? Yeah, but it's not. We don't ever really talk about that, do we? No, no, not at all. That's why people don't really know how to deal with their emotions, because we never really talk about them.

Speaker 1: 6:05

No, we don't, and yet we flippantly use that yeah, yeah, perhaps we need to find another way of asking somebody or making sure we've got the time to actually give a shit when we're asking that question yeah, yeah and just learn to say hello rather than how are you? Yeah, why do we not just say hello? I don't know, because what you've done is heard people go hi, how are you?

Speaker 1: 6:41

so you think that's what I gotta say hi, how are you? If we'd always heard people to go hi, you'd just go hi, yeah, not think so. We don't even know why we're asking it really, do we? It's just that we've just heard other people ask it, so you think, oh, that, that, that's, that's the way it works, it's the polite thing to do, even if you don't give a damn. Yeah, isn't that weird. Why have we not thought of that shit before? Don't know when do you start it? I don't know someone who gave a shit. I think you're sitting in some etiquette flipping bollocks. Oh, I bet it is because years ago, you had etiquette books, didn't you? I think they do. I mean, I think they're still around, though, aren't they like etiquette school? Yeah, yeah, I saw how daft is that. I saw something on the telly about it. Oh, ages ago, about it. This whole etiquette school.

Speaker 1: 7:45

And don't they send people to finishing schools? That's it. Finishing school. Oh, who to behave? What are you? You don't send flippant men to finishing schools, do you? It's women they send to finishing schools. What a load of bollocks. It is bollocks, yeah, they send them to finishing schools so they don't say words like bollocks. It is bollocks, yeah, it's in finishing school, so they don't say words like bollocks. Enough bollocks. I don't think we'd do well in a finishing school, don't they teach you, like, how to lay the table, in other words, your own planning table, get your own fucking out the drawer. Exactly, yeah, there's the drawer, there's the table. Do you not even certainly know? You're watching the telly like everybody else? Oh, can you imagine that at finishing, women Behave in a certain way?

Speaker 1: 8:53

It's a wonder us women are fucking screwed up innit. I know, find a step out innit. Seriously, it's no wonder we're flipping screwed up. Yeah.

Speaker 1: 9:08

There's a lot, a lot, a lot of programming isn't there? In all fairness to men, there's a lot of programming with men. Oh, yeah, how they should behave. You know, maybe you know we could all do a few lessons in totally it well, looking after each other more than anything, but not taught that. I was like it's, the teachings were very individual. Yes, that you were treated differently, yeah, and, and men have never been taught really how to just be able to be themselves and do all the things you know like.

Speaker 1: 9:52

Emotionally, we're allowed. Well, I'll be allowed, because emotionally, it was always that women could be emotional. They were the emotional side, weren't they? And all that. And men weren't, weren't allowed to be, which is just. I think it was generations back ago. Nobody was allowed to be a motor. I know, that's true.

Speaker 1: 10:16

Actually, a mental institution for having a menopause, yeah, but still do that now. I know somebody that's that's happened to recently. Yes, got sectioned and then they went oh, actually you're in the menopause. Good god, that's so. Yeah, we haven't come a long way in a lot of things. Hmm, that's just mad, isn't it? See, this goes back. None of us, male or female, and even today we're not taught about emotions are we? No, and this is why there's all this bollocks about good and bad ones. That's crap, yeah, absolute crap. They're just emotions, and that's why people don't know what to do with them. So when they're there, they go oh shit, what's coming up now? Shove that back down, can't show them. Oh, I just think it's mad, isn't it? Yeah, it's total bollocks. It really is, and we have a generation coming through that is more willing to show their emotions but now they're getting condemned for that, oh for what?

Speaker 1: 11:37

For being woke, yeah. So it's like I can't say it's just crap, just be, it's what we need to be. It's good to people to be who they're going to be. It is fear, isn't it? It is fear, you can't control people. Then no, if you don't have fear, you can't control people. Oh, that's so true, so true. So that's why? So, if we put fear of god into people, then yeah you know you can control them, can't you?

Speaker 1: 12:08

yeah, that's what it's about, I know, because look at all the crap that's going on now. That's just that's all sort of fear and people coming together, isn't it, with doing crazy things. But again, see that whole stuff, the whole riots and that backlash from the stuff that went on, you know, at that dance school and stuff is horrific, absolutely horrific. And it was all based on the judgment of a couple of people, oh, absolutely, who judged that this person was of a certain ethnic minority and a certain religion. And he was neither. He was British.

Speaker 1: 13:03

This is how powerful it is, isn't it? Somebody's one person I don't know how many two or three people's judgement on that's what happened. It's just bullshit and people sat in rooms just inciting things who are actually not even a part of it. No, and, like you say, that whole. So then it takes because social media, and it just takes the net and runs with it and runs with it and runs with it and they slate. So people slate social media, but they don't slate the media and they both do the same job. Oh, yeah, don't they? Yeah, it's funny how we're programmed to think that almost the media and the news that that's okay Because that's British little commerce News. No, is it? They still portray the same shit and there's still a lot of control and a lot of fear and that for people to follow, and they still portray that negative side of things. Yeah, oh, absolutely. You know, it's just, it's rubbish. It is absolute rubbish, a whole lot, least to come off to what happens if they stop.

Speaker 1: 14:21

The news isn't it funny like so you hear, and I'm I'm an older generation, so I'm allowed to say this you have the older generation go. Oh, that social media is really bad and people shouldn't watch it and all that. But you guarantee the older generation will watch the lunchtime news, yeah. The news at six, the news at ten I mean, my dad never missed any of them, yeah, but you don't ever hear people go, oh, you shouldn't watch that bloody news. No, you should turn it off. This is it sat in front that box watching too much of that? I know, I mean, I, I consciously, don't watch the news. I only catch snippets of news if I happen, if either you flick through a telly yeah or I happen to be in a space where somebody has got that on.

Speaker 1: 15:14

Yeah, I don't ever consciously watch the news. It's funny, isn't it? But you don't ever hear that, do you? No, I don't ever hear people saying, well, they shouldn't watch the television so much and watch the news because it's bad for them. Like you say, they should ban itn news at 10 and facebook. It's funny, isn't it funny, how people see it in one sense but don't see it in a in another sense. It goes, I suppose, of, like you say, of the older generation, because the news is always, has been around for a lot longer than the, this bad social media. So how many?

Speaker 1: 15:51

people that's a morning routine get up, have your breakfast a cup of tea then read the paper every day or go out. You know, physically you know we only have to pick up our phone now, but physically they go out and buy yeah paper and then sit and read that paper and believe everything that's in it. What's the difference? There isn't there, isn't. The simple isn't there is. It's just a different. Like you said, it's just a different way yeah and yet one generation slates another.

Speaker 1: 16:29

Yeah, but, like you say, it's a different way of portraying the same thing, just in a different way and probably aimed at a different generation. Yeah, funny, isn't it? I've got all a bit serious there. It's a bit super boxy, isn't it? We have no clue what we're going to talk about on this podcast. We're like we'll just wing it today. We're in wing it month, aren't we? Every day at a time, like, talk each other's day as it comes, and we're just literally taking this podcast as it comes today. Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1: 17:05

But we need to sometimes just need to go with the flow. Yeah, why not? So well, there isn't a reason why not? Really, what's the worst that can happen? It's my say another month, just fit your pants on stage. Oh, I like that. That's Tracy saying. You know, we've had us talk about Paul before, so we're revisiting some of Paul's stuff this month and I'm just reminded he comes up about what's the worst that can happen. Such a great saying, isn't it, you know? And actually, because he talks about wanting to do stand up comedy and what's the worst that can happen shit himself on stage. And he's like, yeah, but even that would be a worst that can happen. Shit himself on stage. And he's like you know, but even that would be a funny story if I shat myself on stage. It's such a good way of like, you know, especially with that negative voice. When that negative voice goes, oh, you can't do that, we go, but what's the worst that can happen?

Speaker 1: 18:16

it's such a great spin on it, but that's the thing, isn't it? But it and I think that's it, isn't it it's just and about, you know, making a titty yourself, and it was what's the worst can happen, yeah, like today, for example. So we've been out on a jolly this morning which is like, so we're recording this on Tuesday so that you can have it on Sunday. Um, so we went out for a jolly this morning and we were coming back and there was a post office van. Right, I did what you was gonna say. Then my husband worked for the post office and we happened to be out in his delivery area when we'd gone out this morning.

Speaker 1: 18:57

So Jason's like, who's that behind us then? So I desperately tried to like rubberneck it out the window to try and see who it was. I was like, oh, I don't know, it does look like John. So we started waving, making faces. I was making faces in the rear view mirror, wing mirror, trying to get his attention. Nothing, I was looking for nothing. So I was still trying to like see if it's him. He got a bit close and I thought, oh, I don't know, it looks like him. Yeah, it's him.

Speaker 1: 19:25

So we're still on banking twats for ourselves. So we get to round about and he gets really close and I said, shit, it's not. Ebby's got a wedding ring on. Tracy, you'll never wear a wedding ring. Spent a few miles like waving at this random person and you guys think what the fuck are you doing in the car in front of what's, what's that? Nothing, nothing, no, nothing. We've had a laugh. He just thinks we're a bit weird. Who gives a shit? Absolutely, absolutely. But he thinks what's there? What are they on? What is their problem? Those two today, oh dear. But you know, the thing is, she don't even know what her husband looks like oh no, but that's the funny part.

Speaker 1: 20:23

You're like, yeah, it kind of looks like him. No offence, he did have glasses and a cap on and I thought, what looks like him, that could be him. Yeah it's not. I take a word with Telly and I go, but I put this in for me, mate, just through a blurred windscreen, like you're saying it. What's the worst that happened? Exactly. What he thought it was funny. Yeah, yeah, he just probably thought it was weird. Whatever?

Speaker 1: 21:01

He probably didn't even notice, to be honest, didn't? No? And that's another thing, isn't it? I think we do so many things in our life that we worry about what other people think or whatever, and half the time people don't even think that way, or people don't even notice. I'm sure people don't even notice half the time. It's just we worry about it. Oh my God, I'll look a complete twat, but actually, like you said, wouldn't it be better to just give somebody a bit of a laugh? Yeah, probably go. You should have seen this woman today. It was so funny. Give them a bit of a giggle and something to talk about, rather than nothing at all. That's it. It's probably made him smile. Yeah, do you know what I mean? And, to be honest, a lot of them are miserable fuckers in their post-docs. That's a bit judgy. Just give me a look. I agree, really, they could do with a bit of a giggle in there, to be perfectly honest. So if we've made somebody's day by giving them a bit of a giggle and a smile, that perfectly honest.

Speaker 1: 22:13

So if we've made somebody's day by giving them a bit of a giggle and a smile. That's fine. Our job here is done. That's all I'm gonna say. Love it. Oh, it's funny. You know, it's true, isn't it? It's no one got her. No, no, no, yeah, we have to just let go of it, don't we? We can just be a bit of a stuffy human race. Yes, because we worry unnecessarily about things that just are never going to happen. Not going to happen, like you say. Half the people you even talk to probably don't even remember the conversation you've had. No, no, do they? No, it's probably gone in one ear and out the other, and you spend ages worrying and thinking, oh, they're going to judge me because I said something that way, or or I look a certain way. So I think people even notice people. Well, everybody's too worried about themselves to notice everybody else. That's true. They are, aren't they? Yeah, so that's the thing, isn't it? It's all guided by how we're feeling and, yeah, absolutely about ourselves but yeah we're going to adopt that phrase.

Speaker 1: 23:30

We need to put that on a t-shirt. What's the worst that can happen? Oh, good idea. And then put as a side note. I shit myself once. That would be funny. You know, we need to get a t-shirt, send it to Paul, go and fix it. When we get a t-shirt made up, we're going to have to do that and go there you go. It's a little present love. That's a good idea. Oh we, we just worry about so much. It's just unbelievable. For what, in the end? For what?

Speaker 2: 24:10

we listen, oh, it's just oh, I could go on forever and now we just it's just that delightful little.

Speaker 1: 24:13

For what? Hmm, we listen. Oh, it's just. Oh, I could go on forever, isn't it? We just it's just that delightful little inner bitch that sits there, yeah, niggling the shit out of us, and what a good way to shut it up. Yeah, laugh, just laugh. You know, if I do that, what's the worst that can happen. I do that, what's the worst that can happen well somebody will laugh at you, and what's the worst that can happen? Yeah, somebody laughs at me. Okay, it's not the end of the world, is it?

Speaker 1: 24:41

no, somebody thinks you're an idiot, and that's their opinion yeah yes, and it's just an opinion, and it's an opinion that comes from where they're sat at. Yeah, like you're saying that, yeah, it's not from where you are or where anybody else is, it's where they are and how they feel about themselves. So you can just get on such a roll with it, can't you? Oh, we could go on about this shit forever and we do, yeah, all the time. That's what somebody's out there thinking.

Speaker 1: 25:17

Now they're sat there going, oh my god, so you two wrap it up and then I think is why have you not stopped listening already? Well, I was just gonna say that if we're getting on your nerves now, just push the balls button or the off button. It's absolutely fine. We have no issue. We totally understand. We have no problem with it whatsoever. You may do that, should you wish to do that. You are free to come and go as you please, whenever you feel like it. The thing is, we know we talk bollocks and that's okay. We're quite happy doing it, yeah. Yeah, aren't we talk bollocks and that's okay.

Speaker 1: 25:55

Yeah so we're quite happy doing it. Yeah, yeah, aren't we? To be honest? We have no issue with doing it whatsoever. No, I've got a problem with it at all. It's a good job. It's actually beginning to become quite natural. You've been doing that that long, but it just comes naturally to us now. I think it does, doesn't it? I think you're right to be honest. Ah see, life's a lot nicer when you just talk bollocks. It's little expectations then, isn't it? I see Nobody's expecting.

Speaker 1: 26:34

Shakespeare frompeare from us, are they? If we did that, they'd be quite shocked, a bit like you know when, if you went, hi, how are you? Oh, rubbish you go. Oh shit. We came out with something like profound or useful. People go what? Shut up. Just don't give yourself any expectations. It's such a nicer place to be. We can't A disappoint anybody. We can't disappoint ourselves. No expectations, nobody's expecting great big Shakespearean solace from us, and if we do do something like that, we can have a real celebration, can't we? No expectation to be profound from us. We're like oh, gucci, yeah, we're good, we're absolutely fine, we're good with the bollocks, thank you. I think it's starting to come, like you say, more naturally and at ease now. Yeah, yeah, there's enough, there's a. There's enough bollocks in this world. We're just adding to it. I know I'm not sure I want to be guru status either. No, no, it's funny. Look good old, simple stuff, simple.

Speaker 1: 28:01

We are simple, pleasant people, human beings human beings just being, just being, just being human beings, just being not doing. Well, we do do a lot. I'm not. Oh, my good god, I've done it again. Shit, it freaked the crap out of me then. It's like the computer talks to us, doesn't? It.

Speaker 1: 28:22

Oh, my God, see which bloody cat scared the living bejesus out of me the other day. You ain't got a cat. No, I know Some nameless crap walking along the fence. Did you have a cat? No, I didn't. A did you have a cat? No, it didn't. But a ginger thing lives up flipping the road for me. Honestly, I went out my back gate. It jumped off the fence straight in front of me, scared the crap out of me. Oh, I bet it was having a right old laugh. It was. I was pissing it. So I think cats do it on purpose.

Speaker 1: 28:54

I swear to god they do. Cats are like real Ulterior motive cats. Yeah, I'd love to know what goes on in a cat's brain, because don't they look at you and you think Never trust them. No, they're buggers. No, I used to have cats when I was growing up. One of them, she, would give you the evils. All the time they do they're always the boss. And all the time they do they're always the boss, and she'd turn her back on you in all sorts. She'd be quite arsed with you. They are funny creatures. Yeah, it did. It was probably made it Sunday. It was probably pissing itself scared. I bet you made it Sunday. Scared the crap out of me. My job is done for today. Now I'll go and have a sleep. Thank you very much. Scared that human down there.

Speaker 1: 29:46

It's quite a nice life, I reckon this cat it's got to be, isn't it? Yeah, well, as long as you're fed and watered, I suppose. Yeah, but cats have got no loyalty. They go and get fed wherever they want. Yeah, that's true, actually they do. Yeah, but cats have got no loyalty. They go and get fed wherever they want. Yeah, that's true, actually they do, don't they? Many people find them in other people's houses that keep feeding them. Yeah, they're like I don't give a shit. You're feeding me and watering me, I'll go to you as well. Yeah, that's true. Actually, they look cat. Yeah, they got it right, haven't they really?

Speaker 1: 30:14

Actually, can you imagine walking into somebody else's kitchen and helping yourself? What a great idea. I need to do that on the days when I've got no shopping left in the village. I'll just pop next door and have something to eat A glove or some frozen peas, I think they're. That'd be hilarious, wouldn't it? It would be, wouldn't it? Yeah, but cats like hilarious, wouldn't it? It would be, wouldn't it? Yeah, but cats like that, don't they? It's a bit like we were talking to that lady today where we went to this cafe and her house is like in the grounds of the cafe, and somebody just walked into her house, thought it was part of like what you could do, and she said didn't she? We all just sat there and looked at her of like what you could do, and she said didn't she? We were just sat there and looked at her. Well, yeah, I'd like let him keep wandering. You would, wouldn't you? What's he doing in my fridge?

Speaker 1: 31:08

He came back to her like what's he doing in my fridge? I was like, what else can I say? I don't know what you'd say. Well, I helped myself to your toilet one day. What else I could say? I don't know what you'd say. Well, I helped myself to your toilet one day. What lovely dress, right, yeah, but you did knock on the door, that's true. I just didn't barge in and go, I'm just using your toilet. I just think that's quite funny. I need to try that, just to see somebody's face. Well, look, it's me.

Speaker 1: 31:41

Cats have the right attitude. Yeah, just, what's the worst that can happen? Exactly, somebody kick you out, that's right. I'll try the other side. I'll find somewhere else to go, isn't it? Yeah, don't have an issue. Oh, it's funny, isn't it? It's not the fault. Yeah, see, everybody needs a cat attitude. Oh, it's funny. We're all a bit protective over a little bit of space, aren't we? Yeah, but I think again, that's a safety and security thing in it. My space, my bubble, my, yeah, yeah, not get off my gate of my? Yeah, because I can feel vulnerable if you're in people's space. Yeah, it's true, actually, and you would, wouldn't you, if somebody walked into your house in all fairness? Yeah, to be honest, yes, and I live in a dodgy area so, to be honest, that's not a lot of front door, so there's a possibility somebody would just walk in and help myself, but not to me fridge, probably to me telly and me laptop, if it happens to be out. People know their priorities. Yeah, it's fine, we're out for food.

Speaker 1: 32:55

We're just going to nick your laptop and your telly you get a better price for a telly than a bag of potatoes. I was going to say to be honest and we'll probably buy a week's shopping with a telly than you can just raiding my fridge because there's not a lot on.

Speaker 1: 33:07

Instagram. Honestly, my fridge is a bit like that, very unexciting. My mum always had a cupboard full of food. We had a larder, then always had a larder full of food, and it's like whenever you wanted something to eat, there was always something nice to eat. I've never had a cupboard like that, never sussed that one. No, my lot come in first thing they do is look at my fridge and my cupboard all the time. What have you got to eat? Don't mind me. And then get moaned at that. I've got nothing nice to eat. I know I've got nothing nice to eat in here. I think, like you don't live here anymore, but the generations used to be that they always had something nice in the cupboard, didn't they? That was like, but it is. That's random, isn't it? So my mum? She had what she called Brian the Snail. So Brian the Snail, obviously named after Magic Roundabout, was a like. A biscuit barrel Was always never failed to be full of chocolate biscuits. Yeah, yeah, like always. Yeah.

Speaker 1: 34:18

So the kids would go in, like you say, yeah, so they knew they could go and brine the snail out themselves to a chocolate biscuit. It was always a chocolate biscuit good, something like that. I don't do that. I haven't. I got rid of brine the snail, but, yeah, no, like you say, always did that. I remember where she lived. So when our youngest was like a teenager, he had friends out in the same area so he would cycle over yeah, a number of times he'd walk into me, mum's yeah all the friends In the back door.

Speaker 1: 34:49

Yeah, like you say, innit, just have a chocolate biscuit and a drink, nan, yeah, we love. Yeah, I was up drinking. Pee off each other's together, I think everybody's nans everyone's nans had eggs like that. We didn't do that, Nat. Well, I'm sure there's some that do I do, Is that so? And they went there. The cupboard was bare. Yeah, and I went looking again. Have you guys seen? That.

Speaker 1: 35:15

No, I haven't. No, shit happens, I do. And that, right, I haven't. No, shit happens. You're like do you realise by something? Funny, isn't it? It's funny, isn't it, all these generation things that happen.

Speaker 1: 35:29

So again, was that like a just-in-case thing? You never know when people are going to turn up. I think so, because that generation were very aware of that, weren't they? Or, you know, always be able to offer a cut in a biscuit or a cut in a bit of cake, whereas we don't sort of worry about that now, do we? No, not at all.

Speaker 1: 35:51

And if I kept cake in the house, john would eat it. So there would still be no cake in the house. There'd still be no cake. So there would still be no cake in the house. There'll be no cake. Oh yeah, it's funny, isn't it? But I don't think we're as aware as aware of that these days. No, do people still visit? Like I don't know. Is there a whole difference in visiting? I think there is. We used to do a lot of visiting with our kids when they needed it, yeah, especially at weekends. And they'd go to lunch, wasn't it? Yeah, sundays, you always went somewhere for, like, sunday lunch, or you had people for Sunday lunch, or like we always had a houseful on a Sunday. Yeah, I don't just think you do it anymore. No.

Speaker 1: 36:33

I don't think families necessarily don't see each other, but I don't see each other. But it's different. Yeah, it is different. Yeah, I think it is. I mean, I'm a crap cook, so mine don't come for Sunday lunch anyway Because they don't get invited and they don't want to eat my food, which is fine. I can deal with that. I noticed I was over cleaning cars on Sunday and I couldn't be enjoying dinner. It's a bit tight, that's really tight, Absolutely. It's amazing. My hostess skills are not what they used to be. Since I've become less of a people pleaser, my hostess skills have gone out the window slightly. That's brilliant. I did buy him a meal deal, it's fine. That's not like I didn't feed him, I just didn't do any roast Brilliant, I haven't done a roast for ages.

Speaker 1: 37:35

Yeah, well, it was only stuff I had in the freezer, see, but quite on a roast for ages. Yeah well, it was only stuff I had in the freezer, see. But yeah, it's from the ambulance. Yeah, no, I didn't. I was like what are you doing for your tea? I've got nothing. Oh shit, sorry, love should have forgotten. It's a tea now.

Speaker 1: 37:52

You see, if you'd been the older generation, you would have had enough for an extra five people, exactly like you say, I would have done. Yeah, and if I'd been a nice mum, I'd have messaged him the night before saying I'm doing a roast for me and your dad. I know you're coming over on your tod would you like me to do your roast now? There's some words in there that I need to challenge. If I was a nice mum, the fact that you didn't feed it has got nothing to do with the fact of you being a nice mum, you know, but we just need to challenge these words for a moment. I can see less of a people, pleaser, give, give. Less of a shit, whether I fed them or not.

Speaker 1: 38:42

And he said growing up as an adult, he could feed himself. Absolutely. I did buy him a meal, dear, all right, he didn't stop. It's funny, isn't it? We've talked enough bollocks for, like I think we have, I think we'll be on Wednesday talking about absolutely, fuck all. Really, we'll have these next couple of weeks. We'll try and come up with something that's a little more useful next time. Don't hold your breath, all right. No, don't have any expectations about that. Yeah, please, no expectations. Well, you, gorgeous lot, have a good one, and we'll speak to you soon.